The Art of Being Unoffendable: A Key to Better Neighboring

“I hope this doesn’t offend you, but…” If you’ve ever heard that phrase, you know exactly what’s coming: something that absolutely will offend you . And if you’ve ever said it, well, join the club. We live in an age where offense is currency. Social media thrives on outrage, and entire relationships—especially with neighbors—can unravel over barking dogs, property lines, or the nerve of someone painting their fence that color. But what if the biggest barrier to loving our neighbors isn’t them —it’s us ? Author Brant Hansen explores that idea in his powerful book Unoffendable . His core argument is both simple and countercultural: we should give up our “right” to be offended. Why? Because holding on to offense—real or imagined—poisons our relationships and robs us of peace. Think about your neighborhood. Is there someone who parks too close to your driveway? Leaves their trash can out too long? Walks their dog past your house like they own the block? Our natural res...