When We Are Born, We Look Like Our Parents, But When We Die, We Look Like Our Choices

 

Have you ever heard the saying, “When we are born, we look like our parents, but when we die, we look like our choices?” It’s a powerful reminder that while we may start life shaped by genetics and circumstances, it’s the decisions we make along the way that define us.

When we are young, our parents, environment, and community play a huge role in who we are. They influence how we talk, think, and act. But as we grow older, we begin to make our own decisions. What we choose to do—or not do—becomes our responsibility.

Think about it: our choices shape everything. If we choose to be kind, we build stronger friendships. If we work hard at school or a job, we create more opportunities for ourselves. If we make poor decisions, like being dishonest or giving up on our goals, those choices will have consequences, too.

It’s not just the big decisions that matter. Small, everyday choices add up over time. If you choose to exercise a little every day, you’ll be healthier in the long run. If you choose to spend time with positive people, you’ll feel happier. On the other hand, if you regularly make negative choices, like being careless with your time or treating people unfairly, those habits can leave lasting marks on your life.

Each day is an opportunity to rewrite your story. A small rewrite each and every day. Remember that trip to the gym, for example, or remember to connect with a neighbor. Even if you’ve made bad choices in the past, you can always start making better ones.

Then, when you reach the end of your life, people won’t just remember you for the family you were born into. They’ll remember how you treated others, the way you faced challenges, and the impact you had on the world. Your choices—big and small—are what will leave a lasting legacy.

This idea of making improvements over time also applies to neighborhoods or communities.  What do you want your neighborhood or community to look like in 10 years? Then start by being the change you want to see.

Take a moment to think about the choices you’re making today. Are they leading you toward the person you want to become? After all, while we may look like our parents at birth, it’s our choices that determine how we’re remembered.

Written by David L. Burton

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