Understanding and Overcoming America's Loneliness Crisis with EASE

 

Imagine a condition that research has shown to be as bad for your health as physical inactivity, obesity, air pollution or smoking 15 cigarettes per day. This condition is connected to a 20% increase in the chance of experiencing an early death. This health condition is not a disease, virus or caused by a hazardous chemical. It is loneliness. 

Who is most likely to be lonely?

A recent study conducted by Cigna found that over half of Americans are experiencing loneliness. This study found that underrepresented racial groups and people with lower incomes tended to be lonelier than their counterparts. Additionally, roughly 80% of young adults (ages 18-24) reported feeling lonely, which is twice as many as older adults above the age of 66. And nearly three times as many younger adults (ages 18-34) reported always feeling left out than adults over the age of 55.

What does it mean to be lonely?

There are many different definitions of loneliness. Generally, loneliness is a feeling that you lack meaningful and fulfilling relationships. Loneliness is a different experience than solitude or isolation. Someone can be surrounded by people but still feel lonely.

DEVELOPING A PLAN TO COMBAT loneliness?

Dr. John Cacioppo, an expert on loneliness with Michigan State Extension, has developed a simple approach to help people combat loneliness called “EASE.” It’s a tool that you can use every day to feel more connected and positive. Let’s break down what EASE.

1. Extend Yourself (Safely)

The first step in the EASE approach is to extend yourself. This means putting yourself out there in a way that’s comfortable and safe. Dr. Cacioppo recommends volunteering in your community, doing activities you enjoy. The idea is to engage in activities that bring you joy, while also connecting with others. Actionable tip: Start by looking for volunteer opportunities in your area, or even within your circle of friends or family. Remember, you don’t have to do it alone; you can find others to join you!

2. Action Plan

Next, you need to create an action plan. Think about what you want to do and break it down into small, manageable steps. By planning ahead, you can set realistic goals and figure out how to tackle any obstacles that might come your way. Actionable tip: Make a list of activities or groups you’d like to join. If there’s something holding you back, like fear or time constraints, come up with specific ways to overcome those barriers.

3. Seek Collectives

The third part of EASE is to seek collectives—this means finding others who share your interests. Whether it’s a hobby, a sport, or a cause, being part of a group with similar interests can significantly reduce loneliness. When you connect with like-minded people, it’s easier to build meaningful relationships. Actionable tip: Look for clubs, classes, or online communities that focus on activities you enjoy. Don’t be afraid to introduce yourself and start a conversation!

4. Expect the Best

Finally, the fourth step is to expect the best. It’s important to stay optimistic and focus on the positive aspects of life. A positive mindset can help counteract the negative effects of loneliness and help you stay motivated. Actionable tip: Each day, practice focusing on something positive in your life, no matter how small. This could be as simple as appreciating a good cup of coffee or enjoying a sunny day. Cultivating optimism can make a big difference in your outlook.

Conclusion:

By using these simple principles, you can take proactive steps toward reducing loneliness and building meaningful connections. It’s all about making small, positive changes that will add up over time. 

Contact the Greene County MU Extension Center at 417-881-8909 for additional ideas on how to overcome loneliness, and for opportunities to connect with and serve your community.

Written by David L. Burton

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