Why HOAs Should Focus on Building Community, Not Just Enforcing Rules
If you live in a subdivision with a Homeowners Association (HOA), chances are you’ve heard something like this: “Your grass is too tall,” “Your trash can was visible,” or “Your mailbox paint is fading.” HOAs are known for enforcing neighborhood rules—and sometimes doing it with too much force and too little compassion.
But what if HOAs focused more on building social connections and less on writing warnings? What if they worked to bring neighbors together rather than drive wedges between them?
In this essay, we’ll explore why HOAs would better serve their residents if they prioritized community building over strict enforcement. We’ll also look at the difference between HOAs and Neighborhood Associations, and how a shift in focus could help people feel more connected, respected, and supported—especially in places like Springfield and Republic, Missouri.
HOA vs. Neighborhood Association: What’s the Difference?
First, let’s clear up a common confusion. Many people think an HOA and a Neighborhood Association are the same thing. But as experienced real estate agent Sue Carter from Republic, Missouri explains, they are very different in both form and purpose.
HOAs are created by real estate developers when new subdivisions are built. These associations are part of the legal documents known as CCRs—covenants, conditions, and restrictions. Once most of the homes are sold (usually around 80%), the HOA control shifts from the developer to the homeowners. Then, residents elect a board to manage the HOA, collect dues, maintain shared spaces like pools and parks, and enforce the rules outlined in the CCRs.
Neighborhood Associations, on the other hand, are usually created by the residents themselves. These are volunteer-based groups focused on improving communication, hosting events, advocating for community needs, and encouraging neighborly behavior. They are often supported by cities to boost civic engagement and bring people together.
HOAs are formal, legal entities with financial responsibilities and the power to fine. Neighborhood Associations are informal, social groups centered on connection.
The Trouble With Rule-First HOAs
Too often, HOAs act more like police departments than community partners. They issue letters, fines, and warnings for minor infractions like trash cans being left out or lawns growing too tall. These may seem like small things, but the way they're handled can create tension, distrust, and fear among neighbors.
Instead of fostering a sense of community, rule-focused HOAs often create division. Neighbors become afraid to speak up, anxious about being reported, or resentful of leadership. A neighborhood where people feel watched or judged is not a healthy one. It’s stressful, and it drives people apart.
In contrast, neighborhoods that are socially connected are safer, happier, and more resilient. Studies show that people who know and trust their neighbors are more likely to help one another, stay in their homes longer, and even experience better mental health. In short, it’s not just the look of a neighborhood that matters—it’s the relationships within it.
Why Social Connection Matters
The social fabric of a neighborhood is more important than its paint colors or mailbox designs. When people know each other, they’re more likely to look out for each other. Kids play together, families share tools, and older adults feel less isolated. A friendly neighborhood is one where people feel they belong—and that kind of belonging makes life better.
Social connection also reduces conflict. When someone you know and like forgets to mow their lawn or leaves a Christmas decoration up too long, you're more likely to give them grace—or offer to help—than to report them. Relationship-building actually makes rule enforcement easier because it builds empathy and cooperation.
What HOAs Could Learn From Neighborhood Associations
Neighborhood Associations succeed when they bring people together. They host block parties, organize clean-up days, plant flowers in common areas, and welcome new residents. They focus on connection, not correction.
Imagine if HOAs took a page from this playbook. What if HOA meetings included a “Neighbor of the Month” award or a time for residents to share ideas and celebrate one another? What if HOA funds supported community picnics, a neighborhood tool library, or a kindness campaign?
When HOAs shift their focus from punishment to partnership, they create stronger neighborhoods.
Real-World Challenges and Solutions
It’s important to note that HOAs do have responsibilities. They have to manage money, take care of amenities, and enforce rules fairly. But these responsibilities shouldn’t stop them from building community. In fact, doing both makes their job easier.
Here are some practical ways HOAs in Springfield, Republic, or anywhere can be more people-focused:
1. Start With a Friendly Welcome
Many new residents never hear from their HOA except through a warning letter. Change that by creating a “Welcome Committee” that visits new neighbors with a friendly face, a small gift, and basic information. It sets the tone for kindness and connection.
2. Use Communication for Encouragement, Not Just Correction
HOA newsletters, Facebook groups, or email blasts are great tools. But instead of only posting rule reminders, use them to celebrate birthdays, spotlight good deeds, or promote community events.
3. Host Regular Social Events
People won’t connect if they never have a chance to meet. Host seasonal gatherings like chili cook-offs, yard sales, holiday light walks, or driveway movie nights. These events don’t have to be expensive—they just have to be welcoming.
4. Encourage Acts of Neighborliness
Start a kindness challenge. Recognize residents who help others. Create a chalkboard or online thread where people can post thank-yous. Small gestures like shoveling a neighbor’s snow or watching someone’s pet can make a big difference.
5. Create a Conflict Resolution Process
Not every issue needs to result in a fine. Offer mediation, neighbor-to-neighbor talks, or a chance to fix problems before penalties. A respectful conversation often works better than a warning letter.
6. Be Transparent and Inclusive
Many people feel shut out of HOA decisions. Make sure meetings are open, agendas are shared, and residents are encouraged to participate. Listen more than you lecture.
What This Looks Like in Missouri Neighborhoods
In Republic, Missouri, active HOAs like Valley Park, Shuyler Ridge, Island Green, Monte Cristo, and The Cottages all have different structures and challenges. Meanwhile, neighborhoods like Liberty Place, Diamond View Estates, and Stanton Estates have CCRs but no active HOA. These places could benefit from Neighborhood Associations that bring people together without legal pressure.
In Springfield, neighborhood associations like Rountree, Midtown, and West Central have led the way in creating community bonds. They work with the city on issues, host events, and share resources—all without collecting dues or enforcing rules. They show that connection doesn’t require control—it requires care.
Final Thoughts: A Call to Rethink the HOA Mindset
HOAs were created to protect property values and maintain neighborhood standards. But over time, many have become more focused on rules than relationships. This doesn’t have to be the case.
By shifting even part of their energy toward building social connections, HOAs can become something much more powerful than a rulebook—they can become the heart of a healthy neighborhood.
Residents want to feel safe, supported, and seen. That doesn’t happen through fines. It happens through friendships. And that starts when leaders decide that connection matters as much as compliance.
Let’s stop imagining HOAs only as rule enforcers. Let’s start imagining them as community builders. After all, a neighborhood isn’t just a collection of houses—it’s a group of people. And people thrive when they’re connected.
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