Nine Things Etiquette Experts Say a Great Neighbor Does

There is no shortage of examples of bad neighbors in television shows and films these days. Consider Homer Simpson or any neighbor from “Desperate Housewives." 

But what does it mean to be a genuinely “good” neighbor? An MU Extension research project finds most Missourians say a good neighbor is quiet and leaves them alone!

But surprise, according to a national etiquette expert, being a good neighbor requires more than lending someone a cup of sugar or delivering a plate of cookies.

Share important information.

One of the best ways to welcome new neighbors is by providing them with a “need-to-know” checklist. This can include contact information for people who provide services like a housekeeper, handyman, or lawn-mowing service.

Keep up your curb appeal.

Just one ugly home in a community can reduce property values for the entire neighborhood. Keep the front of your house as tidy as possible, including the lawn and other plants.

Be a responsible pet owner.

If you have a dog, ensure their barking doesn't wake or bother neighbors and clean up after your dog, especially on walks.

Organize a service project.

You may want to attend block parties and neighborhood events to mingle and form friendships. Or go the extra mile, and coordinate a community-wide project that neighbors can participate in.

Invite your neighbors over.

Once you have established a relationship, you could form a neighborhood book club or weekly wiffle ball game to deepen friendships.

Don’t be the town gossip.

Part of being a good neighbor is avoiding gossip. However, if a neighbor’s mother passes away, communicating that news to other neighbors so that people can attend the funeral is good.

Be a respectful party host.

Keep music at a reasonable noise level when throwing a party. An aspect people frequently overlook, though, is minding where your guests park.

Abide by community rules.

When you live in a homeowners or condo association, you must comply with the community’s rules for parking, landscaping and other things. If not in an association, check local codes to ensure you follow city ordinances, particularly regarding noise. 

Handle conflict judiciously.

No matter how friendly you are, you may have disagreements or quibbles with neighbors. Handling these conflicts with tact is crucial. This should be done face-to-face.

To live in a great neighborhood — and enjoy all the comforts of being part of a tight-knit community — you have to be a good neighbor yourself.