Book Review: Find Your People: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World by Jennie Allen

 

Have you ever felt lonely, even when surrounded by people? In Find Your People, Jennie Allen helps readers understand why true friendships and deep connections matter—and how to build them. This book is inspiring, practical, and easy to understand, making it a great choice for anyone who wants to strengthen their relationships.

Allen begins by explaining that many of us live in a culture that values independence. We are busy, distracted, and often afraid to open up to others. But humans were made for community. She shares personal stories, biblical wisdom, and research that show why deep friendships are important for our well-being. Her message is simple: We need each other, and we have to be intentional about forming real connections.

One of the best things about this book is that it doesn’t just tell readers why friendships matter—it also gives advice on how to make them stronger. Allen talks about practical steps, like finding people with shared values, being vulnerable, and serving others. She encourages readers to take risks in relationships and push past the fear of rejection.

Another great part of the book is how relatable it is. Allen doesn’t pretend that building friendships is easy. She admits that people are messy, misunderstandings happen, and it takes effort to create a strong community. But she also reminds us that the rewards—love, support, and a sense of belonging—are worth it.

Allen also connects her ideas to faith, showing how Jesus built relationships with his followers. She encourages readers to follow his example by investing in people and creating a sense of belonging in their own lives. However, even if someone isn’t religious, they can still find valuable lessons in this book about kindness, connection, and trust.

This book is written in a friendly and encouraging tone, making it feel like Allen is having a personal conversation with the reader. It’s full of real-life examples, which help the lessons feel practical and achievable.

Overall, Find Your People is a helpful and inspiring book. It challenges readers to step out of their comfort zones, build stronger friendships, and create a more connected life. If you want to experience deeper relationships and a sense of true community, this book is a must-read!